Many of us get confused by this word.
Oftentimes we think infidelity just means that our partner has cheated on us with another person, when in fact this is not true. There are many ways to make our partner feel as though we are being unfaithful, cheating, or disconnected. Sometimes when I work with people they don’t even realize themselves that they are going through such a horrible matter.
Let me explain and give you an example below:
I have been working with a client who feels though she is completely separated from her partner. He is never home, he is married to his work and he is more dedicated towards his duties with his friends than her.
At least this what he is telling her…
This person has spent more hours at work and building his career then he has spent towards his wife and kids. WHAT DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS AS YOU READ IT?
I can tell you this is a form of infidelity. Why you might be asking? Because she is left alone to care for the kids raise the kids, be their mother and their father even though the father lives in the house. He has no part of the responsibility and he avoids it because he wants no friction or complications because he does not like disputes.
He wanted a person who he can marry, have kids with and show that he has a life. When in truth his life is at work and with his friends. He neglects his family, he does not take time to have fun pleasures or trips with his family or his wife.
Some people just go through the motions when in fact they wish to be single. This person is feeling cheated on by the career and the friends but he is not sleeping with anyone or being unfaithful in most peoples eyes.
There are many forms of infidelity.
How to heal the above situation was a bit hard but it worked. The wife went out searching for a solution and got one by finding out that all she had to do was stop putting up with the treatment he was giving her. She demanded time and asked for them to reevaluate their relationship. After looking closely he saw he was about to loose everything and choose to fix it and be a partner and fix everything hurray for them happy ending!
Another form of infidelity is when we have a partner that is choosing to be with you when in fact they really don’t care to be with you in the first place.
I have seen this happen so many times it just blows my mind why people even get together when one of the people in the relationship is not in love or wanting this partnership in the first place just out of convenience. When people do this they are married for many years and are literally crying for the length of their marriage because of the unhappiness and feeling of loneliness.
This is when you will sometimes one or both people in this partnership will cheat on one another but yet stay married for the public to see. Then when one of the partners die the one still alive feels as though they have been set free from the chains that bounded her/him.
Why live in this way?
We put ourselves through so many challenges when we are meant to live life to the fullest and have true love.
How I know this is true is because there are many people on this planet that are sad alone and lost. If each one of us are meant to have a perfect match a soulmate then why do we let our selves settle for less?
Infidelity comes in many ways. Take look at your situation and figure out which form of infidelity might fit your life. Do this so that you can awaken and start to have a more fulfilled life in all that you do.
Always remember to meditate and keep a journal of your dreams.